There's no shortage of advice on the internet about how to heal depression. Today's podcast is about depression, but instead of advice, you'll hear a story about one person's battle with it. And because this person is a relationship and life coach himself, you'll be able to draw your own conclusions about moving through depression.
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In late 2013, I met Aaron Steinberg. He was a relationship counselor and my marriage was at the brink of divorce. Now, my marriage is better than I could have ever imagined, and Aaron is a huge reason why. What I didn't know was that at the exact time Aaron was helping us, he was also going through the toughest time in his life. He was depressed, struggling to get out of bed every day. Today, he shares his story.
I recently read a statistic that said that less than 50% of couples report being happy with their sex lives. I wanted to know why this happens and what we can do about it, so I called up Alexandra Stockwell, a physician turned Sex & Intimacy expert who has been featured in Cosmopolitan, USA Today, and InStyle. She is the author of Uncompromising Intimacy, creator of several online programs and The Marriage Podcast, as well as a private mentor. I decided to put my relationship to the test as well, and she walks me through the steps of how to have better sex in a long-term relationship.
Find out more about Alexandra at AlexandraStockwell.com
Also, check out the short film I made about our conversation and the process of integrating her intimacy advice into my marriage on my new YouTube channel.
Each of us has gifts that we desire to bring to the world. What stops us tends to be our emotions -- the scary ones -- like fear, anger, judgement and shame. Amber Rae, speaker, artist and author of Choose Wonder Over Worry, comes on the podcast about how to create boundaries both with other people and with the scary emotions that visit us.
If you've ever had a hard (or impossible) time changing something in your life and wondered why, this podcast is for you. Eric Zimmer, entrepreneur, Behavior Coach and host of The One You Feed podcast, comes on the show to talk about the principles of being able to make sustainable behavior/habit change.
There's a difference between being reckless and taking calculated risks.
Tune in to this conversation with one of the most prolific online poker players in the world about how he's learned to take risks for incredible amounts of money with acute focus and without letting emotions cloud his judgement.
Poker pro, YouTuber and entrepreneur Johnnie Vibes comes on the podcast to talk about challenging himself to #EmbracetheGrind where he played poker for 30 days, 150 hours and documented his journey along the way.
The best risks were taken when you weren't sure you were ready. They were ones where you said, "I could fail, but deep down, I know this is the step I need to take." Remember that the next time you get the chance to go for it.
I took a risk and guess what? I was still scared and insecure. It took a courageous young woman from Louisiana to remind me that it's totally normal.
When life gets boring, that means you're not growing. The way to kick any slump is to go on adventure. It could be a trip to Bali, or it could be to the gym. Or maybe it’s just eating out at a restaurant you’ve never been. According to professional adventurer, entrepreneur and writer Derek Loudermilk, new experiences is the secret to learning personal resilience, confidence and leadership.
Monday Morning Message: Eckart Tolle just nailed me between the eyes with a quote from The Power of Now. If you're constantly striving and always feeling behind, this message is for you.
What if we have it all wrong? What if compromising is NOT the answer? What if that is actually what's killing the passion. That's what Alexandra Stockwell MD, a relationship and intimacy expert, believes. Find out why on the show.
Whatever it is, turn it into action.
This is the first of many Monday Morning Messages to start your week.
When a trusted friend asked my husband and I to sit down and be interviewed about how we healed our marriage after infidelity, we felt afraid, but said, "Absolutely, yes."
Here is the interview.
If you've ever wanted to learn exactly how to stand in your power, this interview with Kasia Urbaniak, a former dominatrix, is for you.
As women, we've been told that we need to be powerful. In the workplace, we must speak up and hold our own. There have been so many times in my life, where I've felt shy, insecure and afraid in conversations. I've frozen, said nothing, then walked away feeling weak and ashamed. Accordingly to Kasia,who is now CEO of The Academy, a school that teaches women the foundations of power and influence, this is an extremely common occurrence and she explains why and what to do about it.
You read the headline right. Jeremiah Brown went from a beginner rower to a Olympic Silver medalist in four years. He chronicles his journey in the book, The 4 Year Olympian. Today on the podcast, Jeremiah talks about what it was like moving from wondering what he was capable of to taking action to find out. During his pursuit, he faced down self-doubt and mounting adult responsibilities (something we all can relate to).
"There are just so many things I still want to do."
She was 25. Beautiful. Talented. Dying.
With those words, my friend Thuy Doan taught me what gives life meaning.
Ayahuasca. Some people call it spiritual medicine. Others call it a schedule 1 drug. But there are reports from all over the world of people having the most transformative experience of their life after attending an Ayahuasca ceremony. Kat Courtney, a shaman and expert, comes on the podcast to talk about the experience of plant healing.
If you've ever asked yourself this question, this podcast is for you. Sometimes we know the answer to getting what we want out of life, but when the opportunity presents itself, we freeze. In today's episode, Kristy explains why that is and shares an exercise for you to do that will bring you clarity and the courage to RISK!
If you have ever struggled taking action because fear stopped you, this episode is for you. I brought back one of my favorite guests, Elliot Roe. He has taught me so much about overcoming my own fears that I wanted to bring him back to share a visualization exercise for processing your fear. Listen to hear us discuss how pro athletes deal with fear, hypnotherapy for fear, why we have fear and how to risk everything and be ‘all in’.
If you enjoy Risk Everyday, please take time to leave a review.
Show Notes:
[01:42] Well, what happens if I do go all in completely. First, let me say like I'm smiling right now. It to hear that you know it hugs and you started to see those changes.
[04:02] And if you're only half putting yourself half committing to the relationship or you can feel that you're holding back you might feel that you're protecting yourself in some way. So oh I'm safe if the partner does something wrong. But the reality is if you're not committing fully they're much more likely to do something wrong and probably going to prove yourself right. That CEO was right it was only worth me putting in half effort because he's run off or whatever else has happened.
[07:43] So first off there's no one who has no fear. I wouldn't have a job if these people were perfect you know they're working with me to try and fine tune and optimize anyway. So even the best in the world recognize that there are things I can improve in their mindset. And you know often there are relatively big issues that can be improved so it can really take you there and performance to the next level.
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So we need to be able to say what are you going to do if you're in a bad position. How does your training kick in if you're on the ground and your opponents on top of you. What do you do next how do you stay calm. How do you turn it back to your advantage.
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What I found so interesting in the hypnotherapy session that we heard was that there is so much deeply rooted some Kupp subconscious stuff that is occurring under the surface.
And so I am curious because I am really excited to talk about primed mind. So what's the difference for people who are kind of just getting into this or are just Anangu what visualization can do in hypnotherapy in the difference. Can you talk a little bit about the difference between a visualization in the prime mind and then hypnotherapy is really getting in deep.
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And the one thing that I've noticed more than anything else is everyone else is just human. Everyone wants to be treated with respect. Everyone is just generally people are just nice and they don't want to be hero worshipped and I just join I just try and speak to everyone as if they're my friend and hope that they will be and in most cases if you speak to people like you're their equal but you respect them and you like them any speak to the same way.
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Think about the feeling you get when the fear comes up. So for some people it's a tightening of the chest for others as a sickness in their stomach or a headache or whatever it is for you then think through your life and think about the moments you felt that way around a similar subject. And gradually these memories will come out and just write them down so I'm 15 years old and someone rejected me some 12 and this happened and you'll start to get an idea of why these things are particular triggers for you.
Five Minute Visualization for Overcoming Fear [50:00]
Have you ever started a project and wanted to quit?
Have you quit something too early?
Are you known as a starter, not a finisher?
That’s been me before. I’ve quit a lot of things. This podcast though, I’m not quitting. But I am taking a break to reorganize and recharge.
Today on the podcast, I talk about how to decide whether or not to quit.
While you're waiting for Season 2, I would be SO grateful if you filled out a feedback form. <3 As a token of my appreciation, I'm going to pick 3 contributors and send them a special gift!
Did you know that you will spend 90,000 hours of your life working? That's over 3,700 days! We better make it count then, right?
But what do you do if you can't seem to find the right job? One that fulfills you. What if you're in a job now that isn't right?
Today on the podcast, we're going to talk about how to figure out what you work purpose is and how to make the best of it even if you're not in the perfect job right now.
Our guest today is Leah Weiss. She is a researcher, Professor, consultant and author. She teaches courses on compassionate leadership at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and is principal teacher and Founding Faculty for Stanford's compassion cultivation program which was conceived by the Dalai Lama! She's also written the book, "How we work: Live your purpose, reclaim your sanity and embrace the daily grind" which is out in March 2018. In it, she offers practical evidence based strategies to achieving workplace and career satisfaction.
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Announcement!!!
After doing my own year and reflection and intention setting for 2018, I’ve decided that I’m going to bring season 1 of this podcast to a close! This means that after this episode, I’ll release one more and I’ll be taking break. Not only to recharge my batteries but also to take time to make the podcast even better. I’ll explain more in the next episode, but if you want to stay updated during the break, go to kristyarnett.com and enter your email to join our mailing list. I want you to know how much I’ve loved being on this journey with you and that I’m more dedicated than ever to bringing you the most effing inspiring show ever.
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You know how sometimes we can be irrational? Like being afraid of something you know won't hurt you? Or losing your temper when your TV breaks even though you know that they aren't supposed to last forever? When our emotions run us, there is chaos. One way to help us overcome this is to take an analytical approach.
Today's guest is professional poker player, presenter and astro-geek Liv Boeree. She has won over $3.5 million in live poker tournaments, has a degree in Physics and Astrophysics, and is host of the webshow, Amazing Science Adventures. Find out how she uses a scientific/analytical to build a successful life.
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