When a trusted friend asked my husband and I to sit down and be interviewed about how we healed our marriage after infidelity, we felt afraid, but said, "Absolutely, yes."
Here is the interview.
If you've ever wanted to learn exactly how to stand in your power, this interview with Kasia Urbaniak, a former dominatrix, is for you.
As women, we've been told that we need to be powerful. In the workplace, we must speak up and hold our own. There have been so many times in my life, where I've felt shy, insecure and afraid in conversations. I've frozen, said nothing, then walked away feeling weak and ashamed. Accordingly to Kasia,who is now CEO of The Academy, a school that teaches women the foundations of power and influence, this is an extremely common occurrence and she explains why and what to do about it.
You read the headline right. Jeremiah Brown went from a beginner rower to a Olympic Silver medalist in four years. He chronicles his journey in the book, The 4 Year Olympian. Today on the podcast, Jeremiah talks about what it was like moving from wondering what he was capable of to taking action to find out. During his pursuit, he faced down self-doubt and mounting adult responsibilities (something we all can relate to).
"There are just so many things I still want to do."
She was 25. Beautiful. Talented. Dying.
With those words, my friend Thuy Doan taught me what gives life meaning.
Ayahuasca. Some people call it spiritual medicine. Others call it a schedule 1 drug. But there are reports from all over the world of people having the most transformative experience of their life after attending an Ayahuasca ceremony. Kat Courtney, a shaman and expert, comes on the podcast to talk about the experience of plant healing.
If you've ever asked yourself this question, this podcast is for you. Sometimes we know the answer to getting what we want out of life, but when the opportunity presents itself, we freeze. In today's episode, Kristy explains why that is and shares an exercise for you to do that will bring you clarity and the courage to RISK!
Are you stuck in a rut? In a relationship that you feel isn't right for you? In a job that makes you feel tired and less than valued? How much time will we devote our lives to things that are not working for us? As you might already know, we don't live forever but we may live our lives like we do. If this is you, then you will not want to miss today's guest. In this episode, I interview Bronnie Ware the author of The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. When Bronnie was a child, she believed she would grow up and be a musician like her parents. When her heart led her to work with the terminally ill, she was inspired to share all that she has learned from the dying with the world.
Listen to learn how to live a life without regrets and satisfy your dreams.
[00:01:31] risks I've taken have have just been a culmination of one risk after another and I don't actually see a lot of Bermas risks anymore because it's just my nature and my lifestyle to think okay well my heart says to do this next I'll do this or I'll do this. [14.8]
[00:03:17] I picked up my guitar and started writing a song and that led to me stepping onto a stage and I was so sick with nerves and it felt like for a couple of weeks before I even got there and I got on on that stage and I hated it.
[00:04:24] I learnt to open my heart a crack at a lot of walls that were blocking me and it was a massive healing journey for me and that led to me eventually opening a creating a songwriting program in a women's jail and that led to all the while I was doing the music I was looking after dying people and that led to me writing an article for a music magazine which led to me starting a blog which led to the blog taking off which led to me being offered an agency contract for a book deal and then 25 rejections later I went independent release my book. The book took off and ended up with a publishing deal. [44.0]
[00:06:54] this deep desire to share this message because you know that it will make an impact and hearing how your story progressed into. Exactly Being a writer that suits you.
[14.4] [00:08:07] How do people get to the deep desire or passion that is going to carry them through the scary parts. Okay well there's two things.
[00:14:00] The mind does the mind and see the exact exact vision but the heart doesn't the heart wants to feel a particular feeling. And so if you can take and the heart won't forget that feeling.
[00:14:12] So there's no risk of you getting distracted because the heart will actually say I'm really not happy here. You're getting off track. So the heart will always always call you back. So if you can have the courage to only do one step at a time knowing that your heart won't lead you astray your heart will actually keep pulling you in the true direction you're meant to be going. [35.5]
[00:15:30] So by committing to just one step at a time then not only are you fully present and can enjoy that step and learn more about yourself in the process but then you give life a chance to reveal the next step when you're ready and that way you end up taking 10 steps 10 really significant steps to get to your destination even if there they'll be enjoyable and an amazing even if they're also really difficult because they can you know life is challenging you to get rid of all the other conditioning that isn't serving you. [39.9]
[00:23:12] I would love to just to talk about your first book The top five regrets of the dying as you mention and dig a little bit deeper into just the first regret. How did you find yourself caring for people as your as your next step. [19.2]
[00:29:07] And you promised me please promise to this dying woman that you are going to live a life true to yourself that you're going to be courageous that you're not going to care what other people think of you. Please darling please tell me don't. [15.0]
[00:30:49] So we have to recognize this that was a precious resource time is and that it's not replaceable and it's not infinite. So the more we can recognize that that we're on limited time and then we realise we don't want to live a life. But other people expect of us. We need to be brave and dare to surrender into where our hearts calling us. [26.2]
[00:34:35] so. So it's it's just recognising that life your life is incredibly precious and it's not for ever and the pain of regret is nothing you ever ever ever want to experience. [15.3]
[00:36:52] When Dad died because we'd healed a very tumultuous relationship. So when he died I actually just felt amazing peace and gratitude but I just knew was a changing time in my life and so I took a few months off and within a week of a few months of Bloom just it was just like warm. [18.3]
[00:39:06] what is surrender in this context and how and why is it so necessary in living no regrets life. Sure. It's definitely not giving up. It takes a lot more courage than that and it actually takes reaching a place where you say I really don't. [19.2]
[00:42:49] I had to I had to learn forgiveness towards myself. I felt guilty for being too happy and I had upper limit problems. It was time to embrace happiness without guilt is embracing happiness without guilt over this idea of a sort of like that we deserve to be happy to surrender play into that as well. [24.0]
[00:47:26] whatever. You know these vulnerabilities and being able to share things like that make us more human. And so when I put bloom out there sharing different facets of my past and and raw honesty I knew that I'd done the job I was meant to do because in doing that not only am I serving others by helping them find strength through my journey but I have learnt through surrender that it came full circle that life loves us and wants us. [35.9]
If you have ever struggled taking action because fear stopped you, this episode is for you. I brought back one of my favorite guests, Elliot Roe. He has taught me so much about overcoming my own fears that I wanted to bring him back to share a visualization exercise for processing your fear. Listen to hear us discuss how pro athletes deal with fear, hypnotherapy for fear, why we have fear and how to risk everything and be ‘all in’.
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[01:42] Well, what happens if I do go all in completely. First, let me say like I'm smiling right now. It to hear that you know it hugs and you started to see those changes.
[04:02] And if you're only half putting yourself half committing to the relationship or you can feel that you're holding back you might feel that you're protecting yourself in some way. So oh I'm safe if the partner does something wrong. But the reality is if you're not committing fully they're much more likely to do something wrong and probably going to prove yourself right. That CEO was right it was only worth me putting in half effort because he's run off or whatever else has happened.
[07:43] So first off there's no one who has no fear. I wouldn't have a job if these people were perfect you know they're working with me to try and fine tune and optimize anyway. So even the best in the world recognize that there are things I can improve in their mindset. And you know often there are relatively big issues that can be improved so it can really take you there and performance to the next level.
So we need to be able to say what are you going to do if you're in a bad position. How does your training kick in if you're on the ground and your opponents on top of you. What do you do next how do you stay calm. How do you turn it back to your advantage.
What I found so interesting in the hypnotherapy session that we heard was that there is so much deeply rooted some Kupp subconscious stuff that is occurring under the surface.
And so I am curious because I am really excited to talk about primed mind. So what's the difference for people who are kind of just getting into this or are just Anangu what visualization can do in hypnotherapy in the difference. Can you talk a little bit about the difference between a visualization in the prime mind and then hypnotherapy is really getting in deep.
And the one thing that I've noticed more than anything else is everyone else is just human. Everyone wants to be treated with respect. Everyone is just generally people are just nice and they don't want to be hero worshipped and I just join I just try and speak to everyone as if they're my friend and hope that they will be and in most cases if you speak to people like you're their equal but you respect them and you like them any speak to the same way.
Think about the feeling you get when the fear comes up. So for some people it's a tightening of the chest for others as a sickness in their stomach or a headache or whatever it is for you then think through your life and think about the moments you felt that way around a similar subject. And gradually these memories will come out and just write them down so I'm 15 years old and someone rejected me some 12 and this happened and you'll start to get an idea of why these things are particular triggers for you.
Five Minute Visualization for Overcoming Fear [50:00]
Welcome to Season Two of Risk Everyday!
Today, I am speaking about big juicy goals and how to create a vision for your life. Listen to this episode to learn more about how you can have what you want in life.
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Have you ever started a project and wanted to quit?
Have you quit something too early?
Are you known as a starter, not a finisher?
That’s been me before. I’ve quit a lot of things. This podcast though, I’m not quitting. But I am taking a break to reorganize and recharge.
Today on the podcast, I talk about how to decide whether or not to quit.
While you're waiting for Season 2, I would be SO grateful if you filled out a feedback form. <3 As a token of my appreciation, I'm going to pick 3 contributors and send them a special gift!
Did you know that you will spend 90,000 hours of your life working? That's over 3,700 days! We better make it count then, right?
But what do you do if you can't seem to find the right job? One that fulfills you. What if you're in a job now that isn't right?
Today on the podcast, we're going to talk about how to figure out what you work purpose is and how to make the best of it even if you're not in the perfect job right now.
Our guest today is Leah Weiss. She is a researcher, Professor, consultant and author. She teaches courses on compassionate leadership at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and is principal teacher and Founding Faculty for Stanford's compassion cultivation program which was conceived by the Dalai Lama! She's also written the book, "How we work: Live your purpose, reclaim your sanity and embrace the daily grind" which is out in March 2018. In it, she offers practical evidence based strategies to achieving workplace and career satisfaction.
After doing my own year and reflection and intention setting for 2018, I’ve decided that I’m going to bring season 1 of this podcast to a close! This means that after this episode, I’ll release one more and I’ll be taking break. Not only to recharge my batteries but also to take time to make the podcast even better. I’ll explain more in the next episode, but if you want to stay updated during the break, go to kristyarnett.com and enter your email to join our mailing list. I want you to know how much I’ve loved being on this journey with you and that I’m more dedicated than ever to bringing you the most effing inspiring show ever.
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You know how sometimes we can be irrational? Like being afraid of something you know won't hurt you? Or losing your temper when your TV breaks even though you know that they aren't supposed to last forever? When our emotions run us, there is chaos. One way to help us overcome this is to take an analytical approach.
Today's guest is professional poker player, presenter and astro-geek Liv Boeree. She has won over $3.5 million in live poker tournaments, has a degree in Physics and Astrophysics, and is host of the webshow, Amazing Science Adventures. Find out how she uses a scientific/analytical to build a successful life.